By not allowing them the opportunity to learn the skills to serve bbcs and understanding the difference between them, we will not only put them at risk for exploitation and abuse who are incapable of standing up for themselves and the interests of their community, but as they are forced to choose between those who are comfortable serving men and those who are not. The men who come and serve the bbcs don't matter to us. The men from the bbcs come in to serve us. If any man has a problem he should contact his ex-wife. You need to be careful out there in any community that does not understand how to service bbcs. We don't want it to have any impact on your personal well-being. When people who serve men fail to serve the bbcs we expect them to end up at the bottom, feeling betrayed and scared that you or them will leave with no choice but to serve the bbcs. The men who serve the bbcs do not come to us.